CRUSH QUESTION: Mia (12, from the USA) writes:
I have a crush on a guy but he likes another girl. And before that, he liked another girl. He was going out with the first girl and he asked out the second one (she said no). What should I do? I don't want to tell him I like him because that would be too embarrassing but I want him to pay attention to me!

CAP SAYS: Dear Mia, if a friend told you that she had a crush on this guy who isn't very faithful to his girlfriend, what advice would you give her? You'd probably warn her to ignore him because he doesn't sound like very good crush material! So... why not give that good advice to yourself!?

CRUSH QUESTION: Shelai (10) writes:
Hey Cap, I need advice. I like this guy who is my age. The bad part is that he gets in trouble at school a lot and he hits girls. I'm afraid to tell him I like him because I don't want him to hurt my feelings.

CAP SAYS: Dear Shelai, violence is never ever right and a guy who hits girls is never ever someone you want as a boyfriend! You want someone who is kind and respects people, which this guy doesn't do. Take good care of yourself by getting over your crush and waiting for someone who is worth your attention.

CRUSH QUESTION: Maria (17) writes:
Dear Capricorn, there's this one guy in my psychology class that I have liked since the first day I saw him but since I was in a relationship then I never said anything. Now that I am single these past 2 weeks I have been going out with him. Every time I hang out with him I have so much fun, he makes me laugh and he is really sweet. A few days ago I told him I thought he was cute and he told me he thought I was cute too. He said I was funny and smart too. Then I asked him if I could get to know him and he said yes but that he wasn't ready for a girlfriend. I told him I was ok with that because I wasn't ready for another relationship either. My question is should I give up on him and view him just as a friend?

CAP SAYS: Dear Maria, why not just take your time and get to know him? The best relationships sometimes start out as friendships and it sounds like you two have a lot of fun being together. Be patient and see how things turn out.

CRUSH QUESTION: Lacey (12) writes:
My x-boyfriend had to go live with his dad and we never split up or said bye, so are we like still together or what?

CAP SAYS: Dear Lacey, if he moved away and never said goodbye, it sounds like it's time to let him go and move on.

CRUSH QUESTION: Melissa (15) writes:
This guy really likes me and he keeps asking me out but I don't like him that way and I say no. He seems to not understand the word "no" and I keep telling him that I don't like him. Please help, he always takes me to lunch, and I tell him that I want to hang out with my buddies. But he tells me they're boring, so I just leave him. But he keeps coming back and it freaks me out, almost like I don't wanna be his friend anymore, what should I do?

CAP SAYS: Dear Melissa, if you don't like him why are you having lunch with him? Don't tell him you want to hang out with your buddies - just hang out with them and don't be alone with him. If he doesn't leave you alone after that, talk to your parents and ask them how you can get the message across to him that you don't want to be with him.

CRUSH QUESTION: Courtney (13) writes:
Dear Cap, I told my boyfriend that I would rather hang out with my friends than go to the movies with him and now I'm afraid he's going to dump me. He told my friend that he was thinking about cheating on me with another girl and when I said I didn't want to go to the movies with him he said he would just give my Christmas gift to this other girl. There's also a dance coming up and I don't want to be the only one without someone to dance with. What do I do??

CAP SAYS: Dear Courtney, never let a guy threaten you! If he's so insecure that he gets upset if you want to be with your friends or is thinking about cheating on you, he's not very good boyfriend material! Believe it or not, it's better to go to the dance alone than spend time with someone who is that immature!

CRUSH QUESTION: Nicole (12) writes:
Dear Cap, I asked a guy out a month ago and he got all red and said "I don't know." I asked him again and again, and now he is like hiding from me and has stopped answering me, so I gave up and gave him time. Then I got interested again, but I don't want to ask him out again. I just want to wait until he answers me but at our school's Christmas concert I heard him talking to a guy friend of mine who said that he "should just say it already." I don't know if they were talking about me. I don't know whether or not I should give up hope, or ask his friend if it was me they were talking about.

CAP SAYS: Dear Nicole, if he hasn't said yes (or no) by now, you probably should let it go at this point. It's hard to be wondering but it's also keeping you from maybe getting to know someone who does want to go out with you.

CRUSH QUESTION: Rochelle (11) writes:
Dear Cap, I really like the Class Cutie but I know he doesn't like me and the thing is I also like another guy who I can really relate too. But here's the catch -- Class Cutie is not just cute but he's also like one of the most popular guys in school!! I have a friend who can set me up with Class Cutie but I also want Mr. Relate to Me who is also pretty cute and he is soo funny. I know I should pick Mr. Relate but I REALLY want the cutie!! Just tell me please because I need someone otheR than my friend's advice to make my mind up so PLEASE HELP!!

CAP SAYS: Dear Rochelle, let's see - your friend told you to focus on Mr. Relate and I'm going to tell you that sounds like good advice too. And on top of that, you're telling yourself that too! Listen to Yourself and do the right thing! Respect yourself and focus on Mr. Relate instead of chasing after a status symbol (Mr. Class Cutie)!!